Sometimes it's better than a turkey dinner, especially in the time of Covid. As a follow-up to my recent advice to "let yourself eat cake," I think we should all unironically consider the advice of Prince Richie McRichface with his wife Mrs. Sparkle and every other million/billion/trillionaire who exhibits this rare rich person behavior: saying something both honest and compassionate that actually aligns with their own observable actions.
I know, it's much easier for someone with "f u money" to quit a toxic employer / family / racist nation / whatever and fly off into the sunset, but it is also possible for people with "f u self-worth" to make a daring escape into the fairy-tale wilderness of prioritizing health over wealth.
Many regular people are taking opportunities to switch to better jobs or deciding to retire early, which isn't exactly "quitting" in the way that word is normally used.
Some people at that candle factory in Kentucky sought shelter from a tornado even though they were threatened with firing, which it seems rude to call "quitting."
Sometimes "quitting" a toxic work environment is as good for you as quitting cigarettes or meth.
This advice comes too late for many people who worked at that candle factory, at the nearby Amazon warehouse, and in many other places that weren't destroyed by a natural disaster but which have destroyed the spirits and minds of their employees slowly over months or years.
"Nervous breakdowns" have made a comeback.
But you know what hot new trend has also come back, this time with the Markle sparkle?
Prioritizing your mental health!
And I think it's a good look.
If you can't just up and quit your job because you're an American and your access to lifesaving health care depends upon constant employment, merely searching for your next gig can help. It can help you feel a sense of control over your situation, even if you don't find something better immediately.
It can also help to say no more often, to decline anything not required or which probably goes against labor law and can be litigated later (like staying in a building that's sitting in the path of a tornado, for example), and to focus on filling up your time and attention outside of the work day with other priorities, such as family activities, dates, hobbies, or even a side gig or passion project that could lead into a future career change.
Assertive people with high self-esteem tend to be better respected and more productive, so improving your life outside of work might even help you to change your dynamic at work.
If not, you can always quit! It's better than getting crushed by a tornado, succumbing to karoshi, or losing your $h*! at work and getting fired, which is happening, um, a lot lately, it seems.
Fancy people quit all the time, and it 100% makes their skin glowier.
Indeed offers a few timely words of advice on "How to Gracefully Resign from a Toxic Job."
Jean Michelle Miernik is the author of OG Robin Hood-style saga Leirah and the Wild Man: A Tale of Obsession and Survival at the Edges of the Byzantine World.