Empty Basket

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To celebrate the coincidence of Easter and April Fool's Day this year, my daughter is getting an empty basket.

French Easter candy usually includes chocolates shaped like fishes, which are also associated with "Poisson d'Avril," the French April Fool's that translates to "Fish of April." I understand that kids go around sticking paper fishes to each other's backs and laughing at each other. Well, why not?

April Fools is all about harmless fun, and Easter is all about breaking the Lenten fast/real-fish fry marathon with a sugar hangover, so in addition to giving my daughter an empty basket, I'm hiding fancy European candies all around the house that she can find to fill it up.

Then we'll feast on mer-bunny caviar. True story.

Happy Easter Fools Day!

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